Author of The Essential Companion to Talking Therapy, Watkins Publishing. Therapy, society, relationships, true stories and fiction.

A story based on true events during Christmas 2021

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Over the Christmas period, my husband, Mark, and I stayed with our daughter, Zoe, and her partner, Jack, in their Victorian terraced cottage in the UK. My Aunt Carrie used to live here and when she died, having not married and with no children of her own, she kindly left…

Finding a way through the dull days of a writing life

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Being a freelance writer can be a lonely profession; we don’t have a team to carry us through the tough times, or the banter by the coffee machine, the Friday feeling of a weekend beginning, team meetings on a Monday morning, or encouragements to carry on writing and improve our…

Mental Health

The spoken but unnoticed challenges to our tender mental health conditions

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When we speak about experiences of mental health issues, we often talk about how we “fight” with depression, or that we need to “beat” anxiety or panic attacks. We talk about how we must “struggle through”, or that we are “battling” with a borderline personality disorder. …

Not being able to urinate when needed can be physically harmful and psychologically stressful

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You may ask what a bashful bladder is and how it can affect those experiencing it, and in fact, I had to look it up when a therapy client told me about the struggles he was experiencing. It was then I realised that this is one of those topics that…

How to manage the effects of personal change on your relationship

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A couple of days ago I noticed an advert for a website, promoted with the slogan, “Therapy Damages Your Relationship.” After giving this rather strong statement some thought, I came to the conclusion that there might be some truth in this.

As a relationship therapist, I see couples who experience…

Understanding why can bring clarity and make it easier to cope with

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The end of therapy can produce emotions that in themselves are difficult to cope with. Losing the therapeutic relationship can evoke feelings similar to those we experience after a relationship break up.

Our therapist is very aware of the emotions this ending can evoke and will be prepared to work…

Men’s Health

Understanding the emotional impact of erectile dysfunction

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Erectile dysfunction (ED) is commonly talked about as an issue mainly older men experience. Although it is more common with increasing age, it really can happen to men at any stage of their adult lives. The danger of ascribing this experience to a certain age group is:

1. Men younger…

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